Regret: the dictionary definition tells us it is “a sense of loss, disappointment or dissatisfaction. I would be lying if I said I don’t have regrets. Unlike most people, though, I don’t let it consume me and causing unneeded stress in my life for making taking my chances on missed opportunities.
I had read an article on Psychology Today by Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D. about the psychological effects regret can have on our well-being. She states, “[It] can have damaging effects on mind and body when it turns into fruitless rumination and self-blame that keeps people from re-engaging with life.”
Although we hear that we should live with no regrets, I suspect we all have a list. Regrets invade our thoughts, occupy our minds, and keep us thinking about the things we wish we had done differently.
I hear from others who say it is possible to learn something from having regrets. We can learn what causes them and why we have them. We can then take this knowledge and turn it into something worth living for. Regrets are, in a way, little life lessons for how we want to live our lives the best way possible.
Another article on Psychology Today, written by Ira Hyman, Ph.D, talks about what it would mean to live without regrets. Hyman states, “I don’t think it’s possible to live without regrets. But if you want to feel less regret for your actions (or in-actions), then closure may be the key to lock the gates of your mind against rumination. ”
Regret isn’t necessarily about doing something differently, but more or less not doing something. We, as humans, have a tendency to stress over things we didn’t do in our lives. This can lead to depression and negative self-thought, which can be detrimental to our health and well-being.
As hard as it may seem, we would benefit more from living fully in each moment than wondering what life be like if things had been done differently. We can’t change the past, so we might as well embrace it and do the best we can for the future.
“I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.” ~Lucille Ball
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